Monthly Archives: July 2010

Think before you speak

When the twins were born; the princess was 4, and jester 1 was 18 months old. So, when I would go out with all 4, people would not hold back on advice, comments or strange looks at me.

Here are a few examples of what people would say:

“Boy, do you have your hands full!”

“Are they ALL yours?”

“I don’t envy you at all.”

“Well, aren’t we populating the world.”

“Wow! I thought I had problems by having just ONE child!”

“Did you do this on purpose? You do know how to prevent this, don’t you?”

And then there are the people who don’t say anything, but, will stare at me and that was followed by a shaking of the head.

But, then there are the people who are nice and will say things like this:

“Twins are a blessing! You are so lucky!”

“Oh! Twins! I’m a twin!”

“My twins are grown now,but, if I can do it, you can do it!”

“My cousin’s neighbor has twin boys to!”

Today, my princess is 9, jester 1 is 6 and the twins, (jesters 2&3) are 4. I still get comments and stares. But, they aren’t as many as they used to be. Nowadays, I get the question, “Are they triplets?” And, “Your poor daughter, having to put up with all those boys!”

But, today, as in earlier today. We went to lunch at Chick-fil-A, of course. I was sitting at a table, and next to us was a man and his teenage daughter. Jester 3 came running out of the play area with his shoes in his hands. He throws them on the floor…

Jester 3: “Mommy! Put my shoes on!”

Man at table: “What a brat! Typical child, being so demanding. That’s alright, he will never produce a beautiful girl like I did.”

After he said that, I took our tray and moved to another table. I was speechless. He continued to say other things,but, I ignored him, plus he was talking with his mouth full,so, I couldn’t really understand him.

 I wanted to punch him in the face.

I wanted to throw my spicy chicken sandwich at him.

I wanted to give him a tongue lashing of words that hardly ever come out of my mouth.

I wanted to transform into mama bear.

I wanted to cry.

While we were eating our lunch he kept staring at me. The creepy kind of stare. And when he and his “beautiful” teenage daughter were leaving, he looked over at me and said, “You’re the stalking type.”

What is that supposed to mean? Am I supposed to fear for my life now?

I really don’t understand how some people can be so rude. I’ve learned to just ignore the rude comments and the stares. I know I’m not alone in this.

I’m not the only mom with:

4 kids


3 active boys

What have people said to you while out with your kids?




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Can I take your order?

When going out in public with the kids, especially the 3 boys (jesters), I make it as quick and easy as possible. Also, drive-thrus’ are my best friend.

This morning, we made a quick trip to Target. Then made our way to the Starbucks drive-thru. I placed my order of an iced caramel machiatto. Drove up to the window to pay and receive my coffee, and this is what was shouted from the backseat to the lovely drive-thru attendent:

Jester 1: “May I please have some water?”

Jester 2: “Do you know Jesus? Do you know Jesus is God?”

Jester 3: “Do you want to smell my fingers? I have nice,clean poop on them!”

Attendant laughing at this point.

Mommy: “I’m sorry. Just ignore them. I do.”

I think I will be Mother of the Year because I’m raising my boys to be polite, missionaries and well…honest?


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The Other Proverbs Woman

I assume most are familiar with the Proverbs 31 woman. If not, you can read more about her here.

I want to talk about this one;

The wise woman builds her house, but the foolish tears it down with her own hands. Proverbs 14:1

“but the foolish tears it down with her own hands.”

GUILTY!  Now, I don’t literally tear it down. I leave that to my 3 boys.

There are many ways I can tear down my house. There have been times where I’ve been foolish.  It has been something as small as not wanting to make dinner, or fold and put away another load of laundry, to the extreme of getting in my van, driving far away and never wanting to come back.

And everything in between. My words. My thoughts. My choices.

I’m still growing. Still learning as a wife and mother. There are phases and seasons that I will continue to go through with my spouse and 4 kids. Some good, some bad.

But, I know He is there. And knowing, “I can do all things through Him who strengthens me.”


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