As a mom of 4, there are many challenges that I have faced already in the different stages of raising my kids. Newborn, baby, toddlerhood, terrible 3’s (yes, there is such a phase), preschool, elementary school-age and everything in between stage. Where I am now are in preschool and elementary school age stage.
My oldest is 9. A daughter. In 2 short years she will be starting (gulp) middle school. I have heard from some friends of mine,whom do have children in middle school that they have already had “the talk” with their child.
That scares me. I cannot fathom the thought of talking to my sweet little girl about “that”. But, it needs to happen, she needs to know. My parents never had the sex talk with me. I’m the youngest of 7 kids….I’ve learned what not to do from my older siblings…HA!
I’m taking a Bible study at my church, Clearview Baptist . It’s a study by Kay Arthur,whom is a respected Bible teacher and speaker through Precept Ministries. The study is called, Return to the Garden, Embracing God’s Design for Sexuality. She touches on a lot of important lessons to be learned and taught.
- The Beauty of a Women’s Sexuality
- The Gift You Can Only Give Once
- Man:Predator or Protector
- The Seductress(And How Not To Be One)
- The Way Love Should Be
I saw this study, and thought, “you know, this is how I want to teach my kids about sex. Through God’s Word.”
At the age of 24, I was dating my now husband, Matt. We had been together maybe 6-7 months. One time, one night and BAM! I got pregnant. I was so ashamed of myself. But, my family was very supportive. His, not, so much. In the midst of my pregnancy, before I knew I was pregnant, we had broken up. Then, when I found out that I was carrying his child, things became difficult. But, here we are almost 10 years later, and we are good, still together. Anyways, I brought that up, because I don’t want my daughter to have that happen to her.
I also think about my boys. One is 5 and twins, age, 4. So, we have awhile! But, when I read about Man: Predator or Protector, that really hit me. I don’t want my boys to become predators of women. And I don’t just mean the creepy, stalker kind. I want them to learn to treat women with respect and learn to protect women. And Kay does a great job talking about that.
In this study, Kay has many Bible scriptures that she backs up with each lesson/topic for each week. I really encourage you to check this study out, share it with your spouse. This study is so encouraging and I think will make “the talk” more comfortable for you and your child.